Choosing A Dating Location and Activity

Many times, dating can be like real estate: location, location, location! The value of a house depends more on the house's neighborhood than the house itself. Similarly, a date can only be as good as the setting. Unfortunately, there is no 'one-size fits all' date location or activity. When choosing the location of the date you must consider the specifics, such as your dates interests and how long you two have known each other.

No Experimenting On Early Dates

For a couple that has been together for a while, it can be fun to experiment with new places, such as a just-opened Indian-food restaurant. This is because a long-term couple will have already gone out on many dates to usual places. New and unknown places keep the dates interesting.

While daters are still getting to know each other, however, it works in the opposite way. New daters cannot afford to risk having a bad experience. While the risk makes the date interesting for a long-term couple, that same risk threatens the chances of even having another date for a new couple.

For example, imagine going to a new restaurant and finding out the service is terrible. What if the waiter spilled a drink all over your date?! A long-term couple may just laugh this off. However, if this is your first date, your date will probably be upset and want to go home.

Avoid The Classics

The old dinner-and-a-movie type of dates are over-done and boring. If you suggest this you may seem unoriginal and lazy to your date. This is especially important and true for early dates or first dates. What you want to do is think of a location and activity that is creative and original. You have to think of something interesting to do, so that your date will be interested in the date long enough to find out how interesting you yourself are.

Choose Your Date's Interests

When thinking of somewhere to go, you should consider what your date likes doing. Obviously, it will go better if your date enjoys the activity you are doing. If it consists of activities and locations that bore your date, then your date will transfer those feelings of disinterest onto you. In other words, if the location or activity is boring to your date, then your date will think you are boring.

You do not have to choose something your date specifically told you that he or she likes. Rather, you can choose an offshoot of something he or she likes. In fact, it is better to choose something that your date did not specifically tell you, because you will look more creative. For example, if you know your date is a Jet Li fan, then you could suggest going on a date to a martial arts class. Or, if you know your date likes to watch movies, you could suggest going on a date to a movie studio.

Location, Location, Location

Use the above tips to choose a great location and activity for your date. Pay attention to how your date reacts to the activity and location. Do not just listen to what your date says; make sure to read body language as well. If your date seems bored or uninterested, stop what you are doing earlier and either move the date to a new location and start a new activity, or end the date early. Remember, it is better to end the date early and go on another date another time than it is to keep going with a bad date and ruin the chances of another. Good luck!